Finding Mr. Or Miss Right

Many people are looking for Mr. or Miss right, but much too often they look in the wrong place or are not sure what to look for.
Several years ago, a guy told me that he had looked in every bar in town and could not find a decent girl in any of them (he was serious). I asked him why he thought that he would find a decent girl in a bar. He told me that he had not thought of that. I then told him that if he was looking for a decent girl that he needed to look in places those decent girls are at, like church. Many churches have singles groups and activities. There is no guarantee that the girl or guy that you meet at church is a Christian or decent, but the odds are better than looking many other places.
There are a lot of marriages that fail because they are based on the wrong things and / or they did not follow some simple advice in finding the right person for them. The more things that are different between a couple, the higher the chance of failure. The more things that are the same between a man and a woman, the higher the chance of success. When looking for the right person for you, you should first pray about it and ask God to lead you to the person He has for you. And then look for a person that:

• Is of the opposite sex as you,
• Is of the same race as you,
• Has a similar background and upbringing,
• Has the same religious beliefs,
• Is willing to put Christ as the head of their
family,
• Comes from a similar financial back ground,
• Is from the same country and area as you,
• Share many of the same likes and dislikes in
music, movies & etc.,
You may be able to think of some more things to have in common.
The point is that the more things that are different, the greater the chance and probability of failure.
Ok, let us address the points listed above so that we can see why it is important for these things, and others, to be alike between a man and a woman.

Someone of the opposite sex as you. The first marriage was put together by God and it was between a man and a woman. Not a man and a man or a woman and a woman, it was Adam and Eve not Adam and Steve. The Men and women that God created, in Genesis Chapter One, were instructed to be fruitful, and multiply, and fill the earth. That would only be possible with a male and a female. They were to start a family.

Someone of the same race as you. Everything that God created was "after their kind". There was no interracial or inter-kind breeding, everything was after its’ own kind. God called His creation good, it is only man that thinks he knows better than God and tries to change things. Medically and Genetically speaking, if two different races mate, their offspring are not either race, but something else altogether, some of the genes are mutated, some are destroyed, and some are altered. The child is not really of either race and is usually not accepted by others of either race. It creates differences and problems that the child did not disserve, want, or ask for. Would a home like that really be a happy home or would there be a stress level and uneasiness. The more differences, the more problems.

Has a similar background and upbringing, is another quality that is helpful. Two people raised with similar backgrounds will tend to understand each other far better than people from different backgrounds and upbringing. Example; a man and a woman that were both raised in rural South Carolina will understand each other far better then perhaps a man from Casper, Wyoming and a woman from New York City, New York, would. There would just be a basic understanding with two people with a similar background and upbringing that does not exist, otherwise. There is a basic unspoken understanding, that might not otherwise exist.

Has the same religious beliefs, is actually more important than people tend to realize. The Israelites, in the Bible, were instructed to marry their own people, for the same reasons that are listed here. Not the least important was because of their religious beliefs. Your relationship with God is actually far more important that even your marriage. Starting off a marriage with someone of a different religion is not a good start and will lead to problems. Some times a Christian young lady will marry a young man that is not a Christian, thinking that somehow he will come to Christ after they are married. Sometimes he does, but that is not always the case. Often there are problems. It is far better to start right. What should be remembered is that finding someone with the same religious beliefs is not the only thing that you should have in common. Just because someone is a Christian, or says that they are a Christian, does not, by itself, make them the best, or even a good, choice for you. Do not forget all the other areas that we have discussed.

Is willing to put Christ as the head of their family.
When Christ is the head of a family, the man will be lead by Christ and lead his wife and children in a manner consistent with the teachings of the Bible. His wife will follow his leadership and he will honor his wife. The man will love his wife as Christ loves the church. His children will be obedient and his house will be in order. When Christ is not the head of the household, there are problems.

Comes from a similar financial background
When a couple come from a similar financial background, they are more likely to be accustom to living within that same income bracket. That by itself, avoids many problems. Most arguments that couples have are over money. Avoid this problem and save yourself a lot of grief.

Is from the same country and area as you
You would think that most of what I am telling you is common sense, but apparently it is not. What is common, is that most couples have ignored or not even thought about the areas that I have mentioned here. Likewise, being from the same country and the same area of the country can and does avoid many problems. There is a better understanding between the couple that would not be there if they were from different areas or different countries. Some of you are thinking of a couple that you know that are from different countries or from different areas of the same country and believe that they are getting along just fine. You just don’t see the problems that they have. I don’t mean that a couple cannot get along, when where they are from is different, it is just harder and sometimes there are problems.

Share many of the same likes and dislikes in music, movies & etc.
Just like in the other areas, sharing the same likes and dislikes in music, movies and many other areas contributes to understanding between a couple and avoids many problems. Resentment can develop between a couple over there likes and dislikes.
The list could go on and on, but I hope by now that you have got the idea. The more things that are alike the better the chances of success, the more things that are different, the more chances of failure.
This is just of some sound advise that has proven itself over the years.